Friday, 13 July 2018

Benedictus Solstitium 2018




A Blessed Solstice if somewhat belated, as this post is written in retrospect and we are now very likely turning our minds to the Lammastide. Here I review my activities over the month of June and early July. My adventures have been varied, enjoyable and tiring, as I have filled three weeks annual leave almost without a pause. Much of what I will very briefly touch upon will I hope, be covered in later and separate blog posts. The highlight without any doubt and the primary content of this post however, was a post Summer Solstice betrothal ceremony and celebratory picnic.


Indeed my first important action of my leave was to spend Sunday the 19th of June visiting the betrothal site, with the couple and other members of the betrothal party. This was for a viewing, a general orientation and an informal rehearsal. This very much helped to settle my mind, as I wanted to get a ‘feel’ of the place.


My first jolly trip in the lead up to the solstice however, was a visit to the city of Sheffield on Monday 18th June. I went to attend a lecture in what is now Sheffield, at the wonderful Bishop’s House Museum by Professor John Moreland. His presentation was titled ‘the impact of the Reformation in the Peak District’ and focused in particular on the Derbyshire village of Bradbourne.


Before the lecture I had time for an enjoyable walk around the city and considering the content of the later lecture, it was apt that I should find myself in the Roman Catholic Cathedral Church of St Marie. This beautiful building dates from the early to middle Victorian period and is part of the great Catholic Emancipation of that time. The building is charming, tasteful and has an atmosphere of tranquillity. It is a building not much more than a century old, yet it feels older. The heritage of the Catholic tradition seems almost tangible in expression.


These feelings were reinforced later at the riveting lecture presented by Professor Moreland and this was to prove the theme of my experience over the summer. So much esoteric symbolism is evident in the older Catholic buildings when compared with emptiness of the Anglican Church. I am left with the uneasy feeling that the Puritans in their zeal to purge the post Reformation English Church of the last vestiges of Catholicism, effectively and tragically, threw out the baby with the bathwater. Leaving a spiritual void, a church lacking mystery and passion.



Tuesday 19th of June was our usual and now regular Hearth of the Turning Wheel Moot in Derby. A time for a small number of us with connections to the Hearth, that is to say members of the Inner Court, Outer Court and Friends of the Hearth, to socialise. A drink and dinner with friends, complemented by good conversation is always a good way to spend the evening. It was also a convenient time to discuss almost at the last minute, our plans for the betrothal on the approaching Saturday.


On Wednesday the 20th of June I decided to take another journey, travelling to the Derbyshire village of Breaston to view St Michael's Church. This is a Norman church, quite charming and still retains some rather interesting features. Outside carved into the arch of the blocked up south door are signs of the zodiac. Today they are heavily eroded and barely readable. These carvings date from early in the church’s history and pose many questions, regarding the now lost symbolism of church architecture.



Inside is what is officially described as a grotesque. A large, near life size carving of a chubby faced boy. The origin is unknown, although there are many theories. How this grotesque survived the destruction of the Reformation is unknown. Perhaps being regarded as secular, it was felt unnecessary to remove it. The church today faces yet more change, modifications that some churches have declined.



In an effort to make churches more community based, the powers of the Anglican Church have issued policy guidelines suggesting that pews should be removed. A common practice in other Protestant churches, in particular those of an Evangelical leaning. As an outsider and as something of a traditionalist, I find myself asking; is a church a place of worship or an ornate village hall?


The Summer Solstice was Thursday the 21st of June 2018 and I was up bright and early. By half four in the morning I was on a hill overlooking the neighbouring village. This was not my usual spot and although picturesque, it proved to be unsuitable. I was required to move my spot to get a better view of the sunrise and it was from this alternative viewing location, that I toasted the golden orb with mead from my drinking horn. Unfortunately my photographic skills were lacking on the day and I remain rather unhappy with the results of my attempt to capture a sunrise.


The major social occasion of the week was on Saturday the 23rd of June, the Eve of the Feast of Saint John the Baptist and therefore joining with the solstice itself, the birthing period of the Holly King. In a park within the bounds of the city of Derby, a goodly number of us gathered to celebrate the engagement of Dominic the Defender of the Hearth of the Turning Wheel, to his lady Adele with a formal betrothal ceremony.



I had the honour of officiating and the ceremony was open to many connected with the HTW, not exclusive beyond family and friends of the couple. This was a decision made by the Defender, as the ritual would include a Hearth solstice observance.



We gathered on a rise above the main area of the park and away from the river. The working area, the picnic area and the changing area, each having clear demarcations. All those attending were encouraged to dress for the occasion. I was in full Saxon to early Norman attire with more than a few historical anomalies. Experts would have noted the errors and it is unlikely I could have passed the ‘ten foot rule’ never mind any closer examination. The working area was set up along the lines of the compass, with painted shields used to designate the compass points themselves.



Arrangements for the betrothal had been ongoing for some time and had necessitated not only the granting of permission by the rangers of the park authority but importantly, informing the police formally. Many of those attending including myself, would be bearing arms and a sword was to be an integral element of the ritual.



Also present were two professional photographers from Peacock Obscura Photography and two animal handlers with assorted birds from Talonted Feathers. The links to both are below. The latter would provide an avian escort at the beginning of the ceremony and a blessing near the closing.



We eventually gathered to the south of the ritual area and leaving my shield and horn on the boundary, I entered bearing a broadsword. Saluting the altar I began a banishing, loudly and dramatical. So loud and dramatic, that I spooked the nearby raven on the arm of one of the handlers and one of the younger owls.



The guests present then walked around the ritual space to form a circle, with the elemental callers taking station at each of their designated points. The Defender’s son Alex followed me to perform the Hammer Working, an adjunct to my own banishing before the quarter callers began their own actions. Since the Defender of the Hearth is a Heathen, it is natural that elements of the Northern traditions should be incorporated throughout.



The entrance of the betrothal party consisting of Adele, Dominic and their seconds, was the final part of the jigsaw and heralded the start of the proceedings proper. After my formal welcome to the attendees gathered around us, the couple made public their formal intent and exchanged gifts. This part of the ceremony being deeply personal, was also a deeply emotional one for several persons present.



Then followed the binding of hands and if this is done correctly; should result on removal, in a knotted cord forming a figure of eight. When stretched between the fingers of both hands, the X rune Gifu or Gebo should be the visible. I had been practising my knot tying for some time.



The closing of the ritual now began, with mead and cake being blessed by the couple themselves and a final, unique blessing provided by the handler of the raven. This involved after a parable, the raven taking station upon the joined wrists of our couple.



I provided one final blessing; “My Lords and Ladies of Aesir and Vanir, we thank you for your attendance upon us in our rite. Ere the circle is finally opened I ask your blessings on all here as we go from this place.

Aegir calm the waves of your journey,
Thor give you a fair wind to fill your sails,
Tyr give you the victory you deserve,
And Frey lead your hunt.

May Skadi guide your arrows,
May Frigga keep your hearth always warm,
May Freya bring you Valkyries to aid you,
And may Saga tell tales of your great deeds.”

Dominic adding, “And may Loki never tie your shoe laces together as you are coming down the stairs.” This is an ending that really fails to raise a smile.

I had one final closing remark, “Let the circle be open, any spirits, elves, dwarves or unicorns trapped by it be released, and all here be free to go with no bonds except those of troth and friendship.”

My dislike of airy fairy unicorns is well known and had become a running joke during preparations for the betrothal. Even reaching a point when a unicorn headdress and tabard was suggested for ritual wear. I had missed the unicorn banishing during rehearsal however and my shocked reaction caused some mirth.


Finally and I do mean finally, the happy couple jumped the besom and guests were invited to follow. I then removed the handfasting cord, slipping it off the wrists still knotted. Not an easy task as I had tied it rather tight and I was delighted to see the rune, letting out magic word ‘yippee’ as I did so.



There followed an enjoyable and relaxing picnic, all present basking in the beautiful weather before our diaspora at the end of the afternoon. Many of us returning home to refresh ourselves before reconvening the celebrations at the Old Bell Hotel in Derby for a betrothal reception. We all wish the couple a blessed future and look forward to the more formal handfasting next year.






On the Sunday I was truly worn out. Indeed my annual leave was beginning to run with a discernible theme. One day of high activity being followed by a near total collapse. On Monday the 25th of June however, I decided on another trip. This time travelling to Wollaton Park in Nottingham, meeting a friend and exploring the grounds.



Wollaton Hall is an Elizabethan mansion that formally belonged to the Willoughby family, the Barons Middleton. Today it is a municipal park and museum owned by Nottingham City Council. The manor itself is ornate and has many wondrous carvings places as decoration. The building was designed by Robert Smythson, the architect responsible for Longleat and Hardwick. His designs influenced later architects and their work, including the creation of Locko Hall near Derby, built over hundred years later.



The park is famous for the deer, red and fallow. It was my intention to capture them on camera but the heat meant that most where hiding away in the shade, away from the public areas. My only snap of the deer is so poor that I have not published it and although I disturbed a fawn while walking through some ferns, I was unable to get a picture.


Although my hopes of seeing the deer were thwarted, I did enjoy exploring the park. It is truly remarkable to think, that only a couple of miles away is the bustle of the city centre. Here at Wollaton one can enjoy a cocoon of peace, detached from the stress of a town life and admire the woodland beauty.


On the way home I explored the canal route in the town of Sandiacre. Here I took pictures of swans that are amongst the best taken that day. I spent all afternoon at Wollaton Park and did not get a single good picture of the deer. I spent half an hour walking the Sandiacre canal and got some stunning shots of swans. That’s life. I came away however, with a swan’s flight feather. A bonus.


The Nottingham Pagan Network Moot takes place on the last Wednesday of the month at the Lincolnshire Poacher in the city. I was invited to speak at the moot taking place on the 27th of June and I spent several weeks in preparation. This obviously necessitated writing the presentation but as is my usual procedure, also included several timed rehearsals. My instruction being to keep within a thirty minute slot.

I met one of the hosts of the moot, a pleasant and supportive gentleman called Howard, well before I was due to perform. A man of kindness and generosity, he took me for dinner at the Round House and firmly refused to go Dutch. I delivered my presentation in what is usually a cosy backroom of the pub, the heat of the day however, made the gathering a little less comfortable than usual. With a very acceptable attendance of over twenty persons, it was rather close.


The title of my presentation was ‘My Journey – my Crooked Path’ and the premise was to give some idea of where I began my journey, the changes of direction I have experienced and where I am now. Not an easy task at any time and within a twenty five minute delivery, challenging.

I attempted to explain a move from atheism to witchcraft, without ever truly experiencing Christianity. A journey that although it has left me lacking in the actual involvement, has had the unforeseen benefit; that I outgrew the anti-church phase experienced by many new to Paganism very early. This has thirty years later, left me with an appreciation of the esoteric within Christianity and a growing interest in the English Reformation.


No one chooses their path and no one chooses their Gods. These things come about by other means, which we as mere mortals subject to fate, are unlikely to ever fully understand. This premise and my own meandering path from atheism to polytheism, I may have delivered with greater intensity than necessary. I am pleased to report however, that my presentation has been well received and may yet be reprised in an extended form.


Although I did cover briefly the philosophy of the Hearth of the Turning Wheel, with regard to the Solstices not being the time of change. We perceive the equinoxes to be the points when the crown is passed from one king to another. I was unable to go further and introduce the esoteric concept of Christ and the Baptist, as Oak and Holly Kings. This may be a subject I shall return to at a later time.


The next evening (Thursday the 28th) I was in Longeaton, a Derbyshire town close to the county border, to watch an energetic performance of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat. The production was by the Erewash Musical Society Youth Group and I estimated the age range to vary from ten to sixteen.

The sheer exuberance of the young cast carried this production and proved to be delightful entertainment. Perhaps because I do not have the anti-church baggage that some carry, I can appreciate a musical such as this and Jesus Christ Superstar, without bias.


During that last week of June Nottingham City Council waved the usual admission fee to the Castle. This is because the Castle and grounds are being closed whilst restoration and remodelling takes place. This is a major project that is expected to last two years. Like many others I chose to take advantage of this free entry and say a fond if temporary farewell to the attraction.


The castle site sits high on a cliff but it is no longer a castle. That building was unfortunately destroyed by the Puritans after the Civil War. A military form of iconoclasm almost comparable to their vandalism of our churches. Today the building is a ducal palace housing the city museum.


Besides the great mythological significance of the Castle to the legend that is Robin Hood, the Castle has considerable historical significance. Somewhere in the hidden caves is the famous Mortimer’s Hole (see Marlowe’s Edward II), used by the youthful Edward III to enter the castle in secret and arrest his mother and her lover. The same Edward III later kept King Duncan II of Scotland prisoner in the castle


My second theatre visit was on Tuesday the 3rd of July and that was to see the musical Oliver in Derby. Presented by the Creatio Youth this production had 90% of the cast under the age of eighteen. It was an enjoyable, entertaining and competent presentation.


My last real activity of my long summer break, was a return almost to my starting point. I travelled to Nottingham on Wednesday the 4th of July, to attend the Empyrean lecture at the Theosophical Hall on Maid Marion Way. This was an important trip, made to hear and support Dominic the Defender of the Hearth of the Turning Wheel, deliver a presentation on Runelore; historical and contemporary. This was his first public appearance after the betrothal and his first engagement at Empyrean.

Prior to our arrival at the hall I met with a group of friends at the delightful Trip to Jerusalem for dinner. We sat hidden away in one of the cave snugs, positively absorbing the historical atmosphere of this building, claimed to be the oldest pub in England.


Since our Defender’s presentation will eventually be the subject of a separate review, I do not wish to say too much regards the content. Suffice to state that his presentation was professional and displayed deep insight. His observations on the development of the runic script, its earliest documentation and how history can inform us on their use today, whilst avoiding more fanciful interpretations, was replete with meaning.

So ended three weeks of activity, trips, rehearsals and performances. I find that I now need a holiday, to recover from my holiday. May those that are wise understand what is written and may Loki never tie your shoelaces together, while you are coming down the stairs.


Peacock Obscura Photography

Talonted Feathers

Nottingham Pagan Network

Nottingham Empyrean Pagan Interest Group



Wednesday, 27 June 2018

MERRY IT IS WHILE SUMMER LASTS




Merry it is while summer lasts with the song of birds;
But now draws near the wind's blast and harsh weather.
Alas, Alas! How long this night is!
And I; most unjustly,
Sorrow and mourn and fast.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7UvesKl8_W8&index=7&list=RDQMLNVZIhCpUdA





The Darling Crew at Treadwell’s Bookshop (London) 27th November 2017




It was one of my rare London visits, although in 2017 I had already made trips more frequent than is my usual want. This journey specifically to attend a performance of a musical duo from Stratford. I am in truth a provincial, I am far from being at home in London. It is too busy, too crowded and too noisy. I am not so much a country bumpkin but nor am I a townie. I like to visit London but the city does not suit my temperament. So my making the effort to journey south to attend a musical soirée is not a small thing. It is time consuming and by train, expensive.


The Darling Crew are a musical duo, one male and one female. The male guitarist is a handsome young man, the female vocalist has a striking waiflike beauty about her. Presenting themselves in the basement of Treadwell’s, one of London famous bookshops, they had a visual presence. Dressing in a unique interpretation of an unspecified period costume, in lace, in gauze and in the case of the vocalist, a basque. Both were masked, creating their own Gothic masque ball



The object of the evening was to launch their album (links below), presenting and performing, samples from their repertoire acoustically. This they were able to do in a competent, professional and stimulating manner. Their songs have a certain mysterious quality, mixing Paganistic themes of a traditional classical origin, with something quite contemporary and fresh


It is difficult for me to describe the music of the Darling Crew, it does not fit easily into a pre-existing box. Should the music and the vocalisations in particular, be described as haunting or ethereal? A difficult question and one I find impossible to answer. My own musical tastes are varied, preferring traditional, classical and folk today. I do not listen to contemporary popular music and I am totally ignorant of modern celebrity culture.



The music of the Darling Crew is neither contemporary pop nor traditional folk. Their music is in a style of their own making and that I think, is the best review one can ever give. The music was enticing, skilled and varied. The music perfectly complemented the mysterious, otherworldly and unearthly vocals.



The performance in the acoustically challenging basement, was entertaining and a delight. The Darling Crew competently took the opportunity to exploit the intimate atmosphere, to present themselves are their work with remarkable artistry. The performance was the highlight of my trip and remains a memorable experience.


https://www.facebook.com/thedarlingcrew/

https://www.thedarlingcrew.co.uk/



Saturday, 16 June 2018

By love - a poem by Rumi



By love, bitter things are made sweet,
And copper turns to gold.
By love, the sediment becomes clear,
And torment is removed.


By love, the dead are made to live,
By love, the sovereign is made a slave.
This love is the fruit of knowledge,
When did folly sit on a throne like this?



Guillaume de Machaut - Douce Dame Jolie (English translation)



Sweet, lovely lady for god's sake do not think,
That any has sovereignty over my heart but you alone.


For always, without treachery,
Cherished have I you and humbly;
All the days of my life,
Served without base thoughts.


Alas, I am left begging for hope and relief;
For my joy is at its end without your compassion.


Sweet lovely lady but your sweet mastery,
Masters my heart so harshly,
Tormenting it and binding,
In unbearable love.


My heart desires nothing but to be in your power.
And still, your own heart renders it no relief.


Sweet, lovely lady.


And since my malady,
Will not be annulled.
Without you, Sweet Enemy,
Who takes delight of my torment.


With clasped hands I beseech,
Your heart, that forgets me,
That it mercifully kill me,
For too long have I languished.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2Pb_jpSyiE&index=6&list=RDGMEM8h-ASY4B42jYeBhBnqb3-wVMupQHrmgR15M

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lady_and_the_Unicorn







Tuesday, 5 June 2018

QUI OPTIMUS OCTO



From time to time I am asked which books have influenced my path, my life and my perspective. This isn’t an easy question to answer with absolute accuracy, things can change and time can change how one perceives works. Newer publications or discovered works, may replace those already listed.

With this in mind I offer the best eight, a list that I compiled some years ago now. Offered with the proviso that an updated list of fewer works is in preparation and I provide links to reviews that I hope, may supplement this list for you the reader.

Pagan paths: a guide to Wicca, Druidry, Asatru, Shamanism and other Pagan practices by Pete Jennings. Published in 2002 by Rider.

This work is written by the former president of the Pagan Federation and the current “High Gothi” of Odinshof, it is non academic and easy to read sociological survey of the primary Pagan paths and the Pagan community found within the UK. Each broad path, Witchcraft, Druidry Heathenry and their respective sub-groups are described, enabling the reader to gain an insight regarding beliefs and practice.


Hedge Witch: a guide to solitary Witchcraft by Rae Beth, published in 1990 by Robert Hale but available in the USA as “The Hedge Witches’ Way.

With her first book Rae Beth re-invented the solitary Craft in the UK and apparently founded a new Tradition. This is a warm and well written exploration of the lone path from the perspective of the kitchen witch. Written in the form of letters to students, the basics of the Craft and the festivals are well covered. This is not “hedge-riding” and in recent years’ the alternative term “Hedge-Wytchery” has been used to distinguish the two paths, one modern and one perhaps more traditional. This is a good solitary Craft book that makes a refreshing change from Cunnigham, particularly here in the UK.

The Wheel of the Wiccan Year by Gail Duff. Published by Rider (2002) and available in a second edition but retitled.

This is a good all round exploration of the modern or contemporary eight festivals based upon the familiar Gardnerian template. Each festival has background information, development, prayers, chants and rituals This is a well written work useful for planning celebratory group ritual.

Earth Dance: a year of Pagan rituals by Jan Brodie and published in 1995 by Capall Bann.

A brief but well written ritual book aimed at group and solitary practitioner alike. Each festival is given a concise introduction, two rituals (one group and one solitary) and supported with other useful information such as traditional recipes and suggestions for incense.


Rites of Shadow by E.A St George. Originally published in 1972 as “The Devil’s Prayer Book” and republished in 2000 by ignotus’corvus.

This book is an enigma, with disputes over authorship and hidden away when the original publisher went bankrupt. The first version of this book was written by Peter West but it was so anti-craft that Karen West rewrote it. Sadly West/St George passed on soon after her classic was republished.

This is a somewhat none Gardnerian and independent interpretation of the Craft, quite traditional in parts and not afraid of discussing the curse in a sane adult manner.

The Call of the Horned Piper by Nigel Aldcroft Jackson and published in 1994 by Capall Bann.

This is very much an earthy and Traditional approach to the Craft. This work has a refreshing emphasis on the place of both Gods and Goddesses within the Traditional British Craft. As opposed to the popularist Wicca or Gardnerian perspective that often over emphasises the feminine aspect of diety.


The Witching Way of the Hollow Hill by Robin Artisson.
Published by Owlblink Bookcrafting Company (USA).
ISBN 978-1-4116-8193-4 also available in paperback

This book is a personal examination of the theory and practice of the British Traditional (non-Gardnerian) Craft. As such it combines elements of a book of shadows or more correctly, grimoire, with explorations of the underling spirituality and magical practice.

Subtitled “the gramaryre of the folk who dwell below the mound and a sourcebook of hidden wisdom, folklore, Traditional Paganism and Witchcraft” this work makes some quite ambitious claims that are I think, generally fulfilled.

This is however a controversial choice. Artisson’s name is not well regarded in some quarters due to the deliberately confrontational stance he takes on the web. I have never met him but I have witnessed this disappointing aspect of his behaviour. Ultimately I am rather more interested in what he writes and what he writes here is earthy, traditional and like nature, red in tooth and claw. Artisson is also like me, a polytheist. I like this one but I add the caveat, that I have been less impressed with at least one other of his later works.


Witchcraft a Tradition Renewed by Evan John Jones with Doreen Valiente, published in 1990 by Robert Hale.

I have a lot of respect for the late Valiente and although jointly credited this is really Jones work. When published in 1990 this was a very fresh and alternative perspective compared with the then current trends within the Pagan Craft movement. The background beliefs and spirituality of the Craft are covered in some considerable depth, with discussions of Craft tools and symbolism. The ritual elements of the work focus on the Cross Quarter days with the lesser or Solar festivals put aside. This is quite possibly the most important theological and liturgical work on the none-Gardnerian Traditional Craft to be published prior to Oates and Gary.





Thursday, 31 May 2018

GAMBIAN SCAMMERS

Following on from a recent blog post (link below) I share a selection of screen captures from a Facebook communication. My offering is made partly to amuse and it is amusing, yet importantly my offering is a warning. A warning regards scammers, hackers and persons using the Internet to farm the unwary.

We have all I am sure, heard about the Nigerian email scam. An individual claiming either to be a prince or a relation to a politician, emails you claiming he needs to get out of the country and take money with him (it is usually a man). Importantly he must transfer the money before fleeing the home country and to do this he is willing to transfer a huge amount of money to your bank account. Then when he is out of Nigeria and safely in London, Paris or wherever, you agree to return the money less 10% for your trouble. To do this you are required to send him your bank details. What actually happens if you are foolish enough to fall for the trick, is that he will empty your bank account.

This example below is not that usual scam but a straightforward begging letter sent via Facebook. The problem is that I have no idea who this person is, how he ever joined my friend list (I am careful) or why he thought I was a suitable target. It is possible that he joined my list by some underhand means, possibly a hack, I really do not know.

Unusually, I have left his name on all the captures. I have done this as a warning, should others receive messages or even a friend request. When it is a question of the Internet and in particular Facebook, it is wise to be wary.











Facebook and the Puzzle that are Friend Requests
https://chatteringmagpie-summonerofthehearth.blogspot.com/2018/05/facebook-and-puzzle-that-are-friend.html

FACEBOOK AND THE PUZZLE THAT ARE FRIEND REQUESTS

Life confuses me, people confuse me. Sometimes I think I am the only sane person, adrift in a world of lunacy. Nothing makes me feel this way more, than what I see on the Internet and that pervasive part of our lives, Facebook.

It has often been observed that the Internet magnifies human behaviour, whether for good or ill; human social interaction is somehow exaggerated, becoming overblown and often ridiculous. It is also sadly true that we now live in an age when any fool can have their own website and thanks to social media, access a wider audience. This blog and the fool writing it is proof of that.

It is some aspect of the Internet and in particular Facebook, that is able to bring the flaws of human behaviour so starkly into focus. It is remarkable how easy it is to make fools of ourselves on the web, without actually realising how foolish we are. How inhibition, etiquette and general good manners drift away from many users of the magic keyboard.

With this in mind I offer the reader three examples of conversations taken directly from Facebook, for amusement and as a general example of the flaws to which I refer.

In this first example I received a message referring to my then profile picture, an ancient statue in Rutland. My reply consisting of a weblink to the history of the statute, was obviously unsatisfactory but was it really necessary to reply with an expletive?



Because I have been stalked on the web and because I have had security issues in the past, I now routinely screen all friend requests. I send out a basic and standard message asking anyone friend requesting me on Facebook to introduce themselves, to show a genuine wish to interact, to communicate and to prove they are not spam-bots.

Some people reply and introduce themselves, some reply with a rude message but most ignore my message. These after a decent period of waiting for the reply that never comes, are deleted from the pending queue. In this second example of poor Internet etiquette, we are introduced to the friend collector. That peculiar individual who considers the quantity of friends, to be of more value than the quality of friendship.




Even today I am amused by the inference that I should have been grateful to have received his request and disappointed that he wasn’t going to add me. His final ‘sorry mate’ still makes me smile.

My final example, more recent and perhaps even more peculiar; is one of those individuals who attempts to claim a mutual friendship in support of a friend request. In this case however, realising I am not so easily fooled and that I want more by way of clarification. They choose to both withdraw and to block me.

This is an action I cannot fail to see as being highly suspicious. Were they a spammer, a hacker or a potential stalker? I don’t much care but their behaviour confirms how correct I was to be wary.





I have a minor qualification in psychology (an 'A' level equivalent and nothing special) but to understand the behaviour witnessed on social media, I would need at least a foundation degree. So much of what I experience, whether viewed from a sociological or psychological perspective, is well beyond my own comprehension.

So in signing off this instalment of my irregular blog, what can I say dear reader? Oh of course I know the very thing; so until next time, blessings and moonbeams darlings.